The following exercises are designed to assist you in the renewal, exploration and development of your private language of love. You and your beloved have complete freedom to be romantic, playful, sexy, flirtatious and affectionate in any way you please.

Love can be a deprivation or an art form. It's all up to you. If you don't decide and do something, you will stay the same. Most of us agree that strictly staying the same soon becomes mundane and displaces the energy of intimacy.

You probably have different styles, needs and expectations. So, you must carefully teach your partner how you want to be loved and what gives you an experience of delight, pleasure or connectedness. You must also be willing to learn your partner's love language.

1. CURRENT CARING: To begin teaching your partner your love language, complete the following sentence in as many ways as you can. Use behaviors, words and symbols your partner is currently using that make you feel cared about and loved. Act as a gentle and considerate guide by being specific, concrete and positive. Try to focus on highly repeatable items…we want your partner to be a greatly-appreciated lover!

I feel cared about/loved when you ___________________________________________

2. ROMANTIC MEMORIES: Now let yourself picture memories of the romantic phase of your relationship when you felt loved as your partner did or said certain things. Take care to include the little things that made a difference to you and made you feel special. Complete the sentence below in as many ways as you can recall. For clear communication, use descriptive, quantifiable phrases. This helps you express your gratitude for love. Appreciation and admiration always encourage more of those successful behaviors.

I felt cared about/loved when you ____________________________________________

3. HOPES AND DREAMS: There are, perhaps, some caring and loving behaviors you have always wanted but never requested. They may come from needs, values, stories, hopes, fantasy, experience, or your image of an ideal partner. Describe below in positive, specific language what you think would feel affectionate, fun, sexy, daring, magical or irresistible to you. See if you can use playful and practical quantifiable phrases!

I would also feel cared about/loved if you would ______________________________

4. SHOWING I CARE: There are some things that you do for your partner that are actions or expressions of your care and love. Your partner may not understand the importance of your action and may even mis-interpret it! For your partner's information (and, hopefully, for feedback), share them below. We want you to succeed with all you do and get the maximum positive response.

I am saying, I love you and care about you when I _____________________________